What if your relationships could feel as
solid as everything else you've built?
It starts in a place
most of us
were never
taught to look.
Welcome to
vim & zen.
vim & zen starts with the relationship that comes first.
The relationship you have with yourself.
The quality of our relationships shapes
the quality of our lives.
So we invest in our relationships.
Time, energy, money.
This is important work.
Yet without the relationship to self
the rest of the work is uphill (upcliff).
1. Relationship to self.
2. Relationship to others. In that order.
Studied.
Master of Business Creation
University of Utah
Graduating September 2026
Certified Life Coach
ADDCA
ICF-accredited program
BS, Family and Human Development
Teaching Certification
Utah State University
Building a Life of Wellness
Certificate
Harvard Medical School
Researched.
Harvard Study
Good relationships=good life
Self-compassion Research
Self-relationship= relationship quality
Self-awareness Research
Only 10-15% of people see themselves clearly.
Differentiation of Self Research
You connect with others only as deeply as you connect with yourself.
Attachment Theory
Insecure patterns can be rewired in adulthood.
Lived.
Born from my own experience
Not theory
My own first client
Still practicing today
A living process
Evolving daily, as I do
Ahead enough to guide.
Close enough to feel the discomfort
Living the results
Motivated to refine and to share
How could I work so hard at the relationships most important to me, and still feel so much distance? That question started everything.
vim & zen is the name I gave the answers that came, built from years of working through that question, not reading about it.
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This work is intentional and honest.
We meet weekly, one-on-one.
No scripts. No hacks. Your work, your pace, your answers.
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A newsletter on connection, self relationship, and the work most of us were never taught.
